You’re Not Just Mom Why Making Time for Yourself Matters

Becoming a mother is one the greatest blessings, it makes you feel emotions that you might have not felt before. Motherhood brings challenges and demands for change in lifestyle. From the moment you hold a child, you become a giver. Raising a child demands your time, energy, love, and attention.

However during this journey of motherhood, often mom’s forget about themselves and lag behind emotionally, so having a “mom’s me time” is extremely important and not selfish, it is their survival kit. This brings out the best out of you when recharged. Showing up every day as the best version of yourself helps in a great upbringing.

1. Mental Load Caused Due to Parenting

A new day brings in new challenges and tasks: morning chores, school runs, meals, laundry, office work, and bedtime routines. This never-ending checklist becomes overwhelming at some point of time. A Mother’s mind is running 24 hours, it continues to plan, and remind them of what is still pending.

These types of mental load, and responsibilities can affect mental health. 

Constantly pushing yourself to be a good mom can cause exhaustion, burnouts, and frustrations. And society often expects them to be available for their child. 

2. Mothers Let Go of the Guilt

Often, self care brings guilt for mother’s, which is the biggest barrier they face. Taking breaks often feels wrong. But mothers do need to realise spending time peacefully with themselves does not make them a bad parent, rather it helps in healthy parenting..

Start with small steps. “Moms' Me time” does not mean taking a full day off. Take 5 or 10 peaceful minutes, take a short walk, have a cup of tea, or listen to your favourite playlist, but make sure these few minutes you are alone with no overthinking.

Before starting a day make a point, always ask yourself: what is it that you can avoid doing today?, or what is it you can ask someone for help and not keep doing it by yourself?. Try prioritising your needs and peace. 

Schedule your time, just like you would do it for a meeting or any kind of appointment. Book time for yourself and adhere to it.  Add variety to your day, it is like a freshening breeze. 

3. Build Support and Create Healthy Habits

Take a pause, you are not a superwoman, ask for help and don’t worry about being judged. Before becoming a mother you had an identity, where you had your goals, dreams, and passion you always wanted to achieve, which are given up by a number of women on achieving motherhood. Follow your dreams and do not forget your self worth. You are not required to be on parenting duty all the time. Take support and ask for help from your partner, friends, and family. 

If possible hire a caretaker, many times mom’s face the challenge of not having a support system and suffer silently. Share your emotions, talk openly about your needs and lean on your partner. We all need someone, you are not a robot who can do all the things by yourself. 

Revive your creative sense that made you feel alive before parenthood, follow your hobbies be it painting, gym, dancing, singing, or reading. Reconnect to yourself again. 

4. Your Babies Will Eventually Grow Up

Lets not be in a delusional world, all the mother’s out there. You know your toddlers are going to eventually grow and have a separate life, which does not have you included. They will have their own dealings, pressures, and with growing time other new relations. So once they are out of home you will be alone, so it is a cue, mom’s you need to realise your kids cannot be your whole world. So do not lose out to yourself, follow the self care tips for having a great “mom’s me time” moment and do not bind yourself and live.

5. Self-Care Tips for Mother’s

1. Go on solo getaway, spend quality time with yourself
2. Stay in touch with your friends, join communities and socialise with people
3. Visit salons and take relaxing spa sessions
4. Join activities that is all together fun and healthy
5. Pamper and reward yourself with your favourite dish
6. If nothing else, go for a walk admiring your surroundings
7. Try dressing yourself again, do window shopping
8. Listen to peaceful music and binge watch your favourite series
9. Like watching animated and Disney movies? Bring out the kid in you
10. Go out all by yourself for dinner, movie, or coffee date

6. Be a Live Example: Why Your Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

Self-care teaches them that taking rest is not weakness, and loving yourself is part of being strong. It also sets the tone in your home: a place where well-being is respected.

If you will not value yourself, the child will also not value you and you will end up being exploited by the demands and expectations of your child.

Stop aiming at being a perfect parent. The house and things around you does not have to be spick and span. Dinner served to your child does not need to be lavish and your child’s favourite. 

Advice for all the mom’s out there, take a break before you get exhausted and agitated. 

Final Verdict: What Blogger Has to Say About It?

Waiting for the perfect moment? Always remember, you yourself  need to create it and start somewhere. You are still you, in this journey of motherhood do not forget yourself. You have a life beyond family and child. You deserve your own space, and time to rejuvenate.